The brain is an interesting instrument. We marvel at this non-replicable wonder and at the same time give it too much credit. I often encounter clients immobilized by self-doubt because an effort to realize an aim may reflect a feeble attempt or doesn’t come close to the imagined idea of the goal or pursuit. This rash, [...]

I am at times confronted with the frustrating dilemma posed from clients indicating that a chronic, undermining dynamic appears to still be active in their thoughts, feelings or behavior even though they have been dutifully enacting strides to change.  The erroneous assumption is that the change desired and focused on is not forthcoming or is [...]

As humans we prepare for many things – sometimes adequately, sometimes not – however there is an unconscious preparation that often thwarts the things we prefer to be prepared for (like more money, greater health, relationship fulfillment, etc.) and this unconscious preparation frequently goes unrecognized. This unconscious preparation begins before we even lift a finger [...]

What are you the victim of? The idea of being a victim registers differently for different people. Some have experienced circumstances that reflect the conventional connotation of that word. Others are defiantly adamant that this is not, or will not be part of their experience (again, relating to the conventional context of the word).  However, [...]

A paradigm, as defined in the dictionary, “is a distinct concept or thought pattern,” so it is no wonder efforts to effect change in one’s life can often amount to “moving the deck chairs around on the Titanic.” In other words, change, however sincere, can only amount to temporary adjustment if it is within the [...]

A client arrived at my office recently distraught over a two-month dating experience that fizzled in the midst of what the client thought were very promising possibilities. This client echoes the frustration of many regarding burgeoning relationships that stall or simply just end. This relationship pitfall – finding one’s self involved in a relationship that [...]

Self Love Courage? What is it? We tend to feel or think we have to discipline ourselves to follow through on matters to exact a greater degree of progress with our aims and goals. Yet this very idea of discipline often creates resistance to follow through because the need for discipline usually emerges from feelings [...]

Get Naked? What does it mean. Why i said it? Think that when you remove your clothes to shower or bathe (or do other things) that you are naked? Uh, uh – think again. Most often you’re still “clothed” in the chronic thoughts, perceptions and attitudes that have been forged from your past and your [...]

Ready to expand your living? Ready to expand the quality, the abundance, the vitality and, or the relationship satisfaction in your living? Then you are ready for a quantum leap. In fact, if any (or all) of the aforementioned areas of living are in need of expansive expression then it requires it. The term ‘quantum [...]