Unlocking Healing: Your Doorway to Purpose and Well-being

1: What’s your doorway?

I empower a client who has experienced chronic depression which can be like quicksand – the more you attempt to manage and cope with this affliction the deeper you can find yourself floundering. Those reading this who have endured this affliction know all too well the hallmark of suffering cited with this particular sabotage. This affliction is her doorway – the particular interference in your life that can be the catalyst for healing. Your doorway could be a health challenge, or never getting traction on a fulfilling career, or never having experienced a satisfying relationship, or a severely debilitating relationship with your mother, a as-yet unrecoverable impact from a death, a financial catastrophe that has haunted you or perhaps a self-esteem issue you’ve chronically battled.

Although there may be additional issues that may be unsatisfactory, a particular affliction has mentally registered as the acute core of suffering. This is your “doorway” to address healing. This acute issue (finances, relationship, health, purpose, esteem, etc.) is your catalyst for unlocking your capacity for overall healing – rather than considering it the culprit of your sabotage.

2: Unleashing Purpose: Empowering Well-Being

“What is the key protruding from your doorway to unlock healing?…”

It is the opportunity to discover – or reclaim – the Ultimate Purpose for all efforts: to contribute to the well-being of living. That’s it, that’s the key discovery that needs to be recognized for all efforts – the purpose for living – contributing to overall well-being in whatever you express.

When you recall or discover that the reason for your desire to be an actor, a comedian, become a dentist, succeed in an entrepreneurial endeavor, be a homemaker, have a satisfying relationship, soar in a particular field of interest, experience a healthy body, mitigate the aging process – is to empower the well-being of self and all who come within the atmosphere of your existence. From husband to client to neighbor to audience, matters not the means of interconnection, this fundamental intention replaces the sight of your suffering with the vision of grounding purpose.

This does not mean your living has to be deemed some lofty purpose (you may be a professional dog-walker); it means recognizing that whatever you engage stems from the incentive to be of nourishing benefit. A housekeeper whose work creates a clean, uncluttered organized space, contributes to the well-being of the dwellers nourished by the order established. This empowers well-being, this contributes to overall well-being.

3: Nurturing Relationships, Body, and Career for Well-Being

Romantic relationships that are and remain motivated by a sincere (not obsessive) desire to support the growth of security and well-being in self and partner (after the novelty of newness wears off) uses relationship as the means to foster well-being.

A healthy and fit body certainly pleases our appearance but more importantly serves our vitality for carrying out activities and nourishing healthy states of mind. Again, contributing to well-being.

The pursuit of a successful career in the public eye (entertainment, politics, public speaking, etc.) contributes to empowering the hearts and minds of those who you capture through your visibility. Again… contributing to well-being.

4: Breaking Free: Transcending Self-Isolation for Well-Being

“The debilitating issue troubling your life is not your quicksand; the selfishness about it is…”

That statement is not a judgmental indictment of your character, it reflects our existential programming of isolation. Our suffering manifesting itself as various limitations because we are oriented to thinking the essential purpose of life is to manage our own perceived deficits – to pull ourselves out of our own quicksand (of depression, loneliness, lack, insecurity, fear) – causing the loss of sight (metaphorically speaking) of true Purpose – the well-being of existence itself that, ironically, fuels personal needs as well.

We all desire and deserve happiness but it is severely screened – like cheesecloth – through the existential isolation personal suffering filters. As long as personal suffering (what happened to me at 4 or 9 years of age or as the situational climate of my experience) is the sole motive for striving, it obscures the power that transcends personal interference.

To be clear, most of us have personal motives propelling our drive but when the personal isolates you from the universal the “can’t see the forest for the trees” phenomena obscure’s the very innate power of your well-being‘s capacity.

5: Transcending Self for Greater Growth

“Why do you think it’s always easier to give good advice to others than to follow it yourself? That is because you are too close to you!…”

This inadvertent selfishness subjects you to perceived shortcomings rather than to your objective capacity.

The remedy? To invest your reason for living in Life’s well-being rather than isolated, personal well-being. Remember, isolated motivation obscures the potency of transcendent capacity due to the subjectivity of personalized self-perception.

Personal suffering is indeed the catalyst for well-being aspiration but what propels its realization must access a transcendent capacity not subject to the limitations of self-perception inadequacies.

“…You are not what has happened to you; you are Life’s means of transcendent independence of it…”

The more you think about that last sentence the more your doorway of limitation becomes leverage to something greater.

You are not what has happened to you. Redefine identity from overarching purpose – as defined here – and problems become steppingstones rather than tombstones.

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6: Summary

Acknowledge your afflictions as doorways to healing. Whether it’s chronic depression, health challenges, career struggles, or relationship issues, these afflictions can be catalysts for growth. The key to unlocking healing lies in discovering your ultimate purpose: contributing to the well-being of yourself and others. Recognize that whatever you do, big or small, can be of nourishing benefit. By shifting your focus from personal suffering to a broader purpose, problems become steppingstones to something greater. Invest in life’s well-being rather than isolated self-interest and tap into a transcendent capacity for healing. Remember, you are not defined by what has happened to you; you are a means of transcendent independence.