What are you the victim of? The idea of being a victim registers differently for different people. Some have experienced circumstances that reflect the conventional connotation of that word. Others are defiantly adamant that this is not, or will not be part of their experience (again, relating to the conventional context of the word). However, there are levels of victimization that we unwittingly, yet nonetheless, allow ourselves to be, uh, victimized by without even realizing this is the case.
Do you allow yourself to be the victim of financial constriction through the unconscious doubt this picture will ever change? Do you allow yourself to be the victim of your past? Do you allow yourself to be the victim of cynicism, fear, self-doubt, negative thinking, inertia … and the list goes on. The dictionary defines victim as, ”a person harmed, injured, or killed as a result of a crime, accident, or other event or action,” aren’t you “harmed” in some way by financial constriction? Doesn’t cynicism and negative thinking “kill” a bit of your spirit? I pose the question again, “What are you the victim of?”
We have all heard the admonition that the victim should not be blamed for the crime; however, do we indict (blame) ourselves for our financial, emotional, relationship conditions, so-called failures, and other limitations witnessed? As consequences have proven, blaming the “victim” does not eradicate or arrest (no pun intended) the crime. So then why do we think blaming ourselves for our conditions will eradicate them? The argument that typically follows this train of thought is that one should not blame but “take responsibility” for certain conditions, however, that idea is loaded with judgment (blame) itself! Unless that word “responsibility” is engaged from a completely different context and paradigm.
“Responsibility,” stripped of the blame and judgment it often implies, truly means, “the ability to respond.” As this becomes the operative meaning of taking responsibility it becomes a game-changer in your ability to no longer be victimized by your conditioned perceptions vis-à-vis your circumstances. You have “the ability to respond” to your thoughts of limitation by nixing them when they arise. You have the ability to respond to the reactionary thought, “I can’t afford that” by saying, “I will not allow my mind to continuously default to thoughts based on circumstances, but rather, based on possibility.” (If Oprah, Gates, Branson, your uncle, or neighbor can do it, so can you – yes, it starts with the very thought it is possible.)
No longer be the “victim” of your thoughts of limitation and blame! Thoughts become attitudes, attitudes influence behavior, behavior creates momentum, momentum fuels change. Yes, Virginia, it’s that simple. You ALWAYS maintain the power to change a thought! When you begin to see changing a chronic thought of limitation (regarding health, career, finances, losing weight, self-love, confidence, possibilities, etc.) like changing your mind on what you are going to wear today, baby, you are on to something!
You are not what has happened to you. You are the means of what you desire to happen through you. Engage freeing response-ability! Respond to your real, intrinsically powerful self.
