Law of Attraction – Really?
Recently, a friend received the perfect pet dog through circumstances she did not need to facilitate. She has been mulling this desire over a year now just for the kind of dog she received. The dog was the type she always thought she’d get if she ever decided to; right temperament, size and breed.
The stroke of fortune that culminated in her receiving the dog prompted two equally felt emotions: joy and delight at her new-found companion and the ease with which it came into her experience and – speaking of companion – puzzlement that a companion of another sort appears to remain elusive. Her puzzlement stemmed from not understanding why, if she’s held in her heart the desire for the right man even more than the desire for the dog, as she lamented to me, “How is it that I can ‘attract’ (what I desire) regarding this pet dog into my life but not a man?” I noticed that even the joy over her new-found companion was initially a bit tempered by her puzzlement regarding the other “attraction” that this one, disappointedly reminded her, had not yet come to pass.
Haven’t we all had experiences where something pleasant occurs relatively effortlessly yet much more desired occurrences seem to remain dutifully elusive? Is the Law of Attraction arbitrarily granting fulfillments? Or is this Law so drunk on its own power of control it wields it surreptitiously like a Master of Fate? Why a dog and not a man?! (“And I want them both house-trained!”)
In spite of the anthropomorphic onus being imposed on a neutral principle of life – the law of attraction (of which many agree or do not agree is credible) the fact remains that certainly, we must have some bearing or influence on what is attracted in – or not – to our lives.
I have a theory about this: Perhaps our own subjective, unconscious doubt about the possibility of the strongly desired occurrence mitigates the possibility? What if the evasive experience of a desired occurrence begins to subtly inform our expectancy with constricting doubtfulness? Perhaps the intensity of the desire itself obscures the mitigating doubt which is acting like an invisible repellant undermining our efforts. And perhaps the remedy is to begin viewing the more “significant” desires with the same “possibility ratio” we give to the more innocuous desires. Hence, doubt is not unconsciously promoted.
In short, when getting a man (woman, better job, career, etc.) is held in one’s perception with the same degree of feasibility as, say, receiving no ticket at an expired parking meter – then perhaps that house-trained man will appear with relative ease too!
