Want to know a most direct way to empower healing in your life? (‘Healing’ is a term therapeutically referencing any dynamic one desires to see greater well-being in, or with, i.e.,health, finances, relationship, career, esteem, peace, worthiness, etc.). A direct way to leverage well-being progress is to understand the true nature of decision-making.

Contrary to common assumption, you never make decisions ‘about’ something you make decisions from ‘your perspective’ about something. Most would agree that two individuals making different decisions about the same matter are determined by the individual’s perspective on the matter. Therefore, you never make decisions about a matter – you make decisions from your perspective about a matter.

Even the perceived inability to make decisions is a perspective – not a condition. In fact, the driving point of this article post is the illuminating reality that you are ALWAYS making decisions. In every moment you are deciding. We just don’t realize we are enacting decision-making because we are fooled by the emotional narrative of our reflexive behavior. 

We never do things automatically (another myth stemming from emotional reflex) – we do things reflexively. Phenomena we unconsciously promote, propagate and, or witness, triggers an emotional reflex – it is not automatic occurrence; it is triggered occurrence.

This insightful dissection is not navel-gazing lint-picking – it is the essential key to reclaiming your awareness of your autonomy. Your power to employ decisions that welcome greater well-being. Note the emphasis is, ‘welcome’ well-being, not ‘make’ or ‘create’.  Just as you don’t make things grow but you indeed welcome, through conducive environments, optimal growth – Nature is the grower.

Your well-being is Life’s fundamental Nature, not a construct of mental intention. Therefore, you are welcoming through your decisions, not making something occur or happen. Yes, decisions are made and consequences result, but again, decisions still emanate from the perspective that determines their nature.

Your most potent ally in promoting well-being in your life is to realize that every reaction, behavior, attitude, perspective is a decision. Here is the obscured secret about decision-making: Attitudes and perspective are formed in the infinitesimal time gap between observation and reaction, we don’t realize that a decision is being initiated in the split moment of a moment(during the gap) – so we assume it is happening on its own or automatically. From this enlighten awareness you have the power to decide what perspective will inform your split-lightning decisioning as you now realize no decision, because of the gap interval, is automatic. 

Whenever someone or some matter elicits the refrain, “(blank) made me feel…” it is an unconscious abdication of your decision-making autonomy. No one or situation can “make” you feel anything, or any way, you are deciding in that split gap of a moment, whatever association the encounter triggers, how you will respond. In that split moment of a moment, YOU are indeed deciding. 

Even the idea that one is subject to indecision – afraid to make decisions out of fear – that again, is an emotionally-driven narrative rather than a truthful reality because that declaration is, itself, a decision – the decision to feel indecisive – disproving the pronouncement!

The essential point is that you are not an automaton – you just, if anything, accept the narrative that you are, and it perpetuates its own proceedings and cycles. You are a sentient being (conscious and responsive), and since the bases of your existence is not a program, all programmed thoughts (and accompanying emotions and perspectives) are not intrinsic but imposed programming. 

This is your irrevocable leverage – the fact (and I don’t use the word, “fact” lightly or as a euphemism) that any decision that sabotages well-being can be interceded at the moment of “the gap” and not continue its programmed nature. You can be your own salvation. In fact, (there’s that word again) – you must be.

Use any empowerment that strengthens your decision-making capacity (illumined therapy, hypnotherapy, coaching, conscious analysis, exploration, explorative meditation, thought-provoking reading, illumined prayer, etc., with the note that hallucinatory drugs can be more a distraction than a helpful methodology) andstrengthen your capacity to intercede. Consciously decide on behalf of your well-being.

The moment you welcome (accept) the reality that you are not a program, is the moment you reclaim the ultimate decision – that you are the decider. You do not decide that things must be the way you want them to be, as the ultimate decider, you are deciding that you don’t have to be the way things (conditions, your past, your traumas) want you to be.

Decide to be your own salvation. You don’t have to battle, coerce or chase – only intercede and decide.